Breakup Myth: Closure
You deserve peace after a relationship ends.
And you might be looking for peace in places that can’t hold it for you.
After a breakup, we might envision closure as a neatly wrapped package delivered by our past partner during a final conversation that ties up loose ends and provides more understanding. Then, we’re let down each time they reach out, and we realize that we’re seeking closure from the same circumstances that created the fractures.
Closure is often a myth that keeps us tethered to a past partner, a friendship that needs to end, or other relationships that we know aren’t serving us. When we constantly look for these mythological healing conversations from those who don’t have the emotional capacity to offer us more than the same crumbs we’ve chased throughout the relationship, we set ourselves up for further opening the wounds that desperately need healing.
Seeking closure is not an excuse to engage in unhealthy communication patterns.
If you respond to those messages promising you answers, be prepared to walk away from that conversation with more questions and confusion. Typically, closure is an internal process.
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